Breaking limiting beliefs
Overcoming Self limiting beliefs
There is one grand lie - that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe. Wayne Dyer
I was the shy, retiring girl who had little to say. If the opportunity arose I would hide and cower in the background. Although this was not an ideal way to start life, it allowed me to become an astute observer, spending hours noticing the small details. This skill has come in handy when coaching clients, it gives me the opportunity to offer precise feedback, truly raising my clients self awareness.
A reason behind my lack of confidence in childhood, was fear of judgement. There were many times I wanted to speak up, to participate with others but my shyness was debilitating. I truly emphasise with clients in that sense. The coaching space I create is an environment where they feel safe to express themselves without fear. A place where my clients can find their voice.
I know the insecurity I had at the time, hindered me both personally and professionally. I remember losing out on a placement as the manager felt I did not speak up enough. I want my clients to have that support that the outside world does not always offer. I did start to come out of my shell in my 20s, but it was more surface level confidence.
At the start of my 30s I still desired to fit into society norms, it felt secure - I thought at the time, ‘this is what I should be doing’, and less about ‘this is what I truly want to be doing’. The day I began to live for myself occurred in the winter of 2011. I got fed up of not being heard, and living someone else’s idea of a perfect life.
I want my clients to have that support that the outside world does not always offer. Breaking labels and limiting beliefs is an important aspect of my work. I want my clients to feel supported to live the way they want to.
My new years resolution for 2013 was to spend the next 1000 days doing all those things I had wanted to do, leaving no excuses for inaction. I did not intend to waste the freedom I had, not everyone is blessed with liberty, not everyone lives in a country that allows it. This intention started a process in my universe where my life changed dramatically, beyond my imagination - I would reach destinations that I would never have envisaged, interact with amazing souls all around the world. I have true curiosity in my clients, which enables a lively dialogue. I have an adventurous spirit which ensures creative sessions. My coaching is definitely not boring!
Saying all this, does not mean my life is without challenges, they still exist. However I have a certain buoyancy. Together with my clients we build their individual resiliency plans. As recent as Jan 2019 - I was in the midst of grief for the loss of my grandmother. I had started my coaching journey two weeks before. There were two modules in my diploma that helped me process all my emotions - they were mindfulness and embodiment. I realised things on a much deeper level, and during our turbulent 2020 I have had the opportunity to attend courses and incorporate those understandings on a level I didn't even know existed. In terms of coaching, I help my clients re-centre, ground, feel all their emotions and truly be aware of their mind and body. Inevitably the soul follows and balance is restored.
Having a lifestyle that encompasses all that I desire requires a lot of juggling or as I like to call it now, strategically planning. For every new idea or venture I draw out my journey, and even if life meanders, I manage to stay on course. I encourage my clients in the same manner, and support them though coaching to execute their dreams into a tangible reality.
It won’t be an easy ride, I overcame my obstacles by constantly challenging myself - so as a client, expect to be in the same boat. You will have the opportunity for tremendous growth - are you ready for this golden moment to completely transform your life and unleash your potential? Expect to put in the work. This is not outside the box thinking, this is ‘ what box?’ We will laugh, we will create, and at moments there may be tears, but duality is the essence of life. Drop me a message so this partnership can begin.