A reason behind my lack of confidence in childhood, was fear of judgement. There were many times I wanted to speak up, to participate with others but my shyness was debilitating. I truly empathise with clients in that sense. The coaching space I create is an environment where they feel safe to express themselves without fear. A place where my clients can find their voice. I know the insecurity I had at the time, hindered me both personally and professionally. I remember losing out on a placement as the manager felt I did not speak up enough.
I did start to come out of my shell in my 20s, but it was more surface level confidence. At the start of my 30s I still desired to fit into society norms, it felt secure - I thought at the time, ‘this is what I should be doing’, and less about ‘this is what I truly want to be doing’. The day I began to live for myself occurred in the winter of 2011. I got fed up of not being heard, and living someone else’s idea of a perfect life.
I want my clients to have that support that the outside world does not always offer. Breaking labels and limiting beliefs is an important aspect of my work. I want my clients to feel supported to live the way they want to."
My new years resolution for 2013 was to spend the next 1000 days doing all those things I had wanted to do, leaving no excuses for inaction. I did not intend to waste the freedom I had, not everyone is blessed with liberty, not everyone lives in a country that allows it. This intention started a process in my universe where my life changed dramatically, beyond my imagination.
I would reach destinations that I would never have envisaged, interact with amazing souls all around the world. I have true curiosity in my clients, which enables a lively dialogue. I have an adventurous spirit which ensures creative sessions. My coaching is definitely not boring!
Saying all this, does not mean my life is without challenges, they still exist. However I have a certain buoyancy. Together with my clients we build their individual resiliency plans.
As recent as Jan 2019 - I was in the midst of grief for the loss of my grandmother. I had started my coaching journey two weeks before. There were two modules in my diploma that helped me process all my emotions - they were mindfulness and embodiment. I realised things on a much deeper level, and during our turbulent 2020 I have had the opportunity to attend courses and incorporate those understandings on a level I didn't even know existed.
Having a lifestyle that encompasses all that I desire requires a lot of juggling or as I like to call it now, strategically planning. For every new idea or venture I draw out my journey, and even if life meanders, I manage to stay on course. I encourage my clients in the same manner, and support them though coaching to execute their dreams into a tangible reality.